life | bad news

hello. we found out yesterday that scott's father, charlie, does have lung cancer. it's a small spot and hasn't spread - good news. he's not strong enough to go through surgery and chemo though - news yet to be determined if good or bad. he & scott will meet with a doctor to discuss radiation and see what charlie wants to do, if anything. we know of someone who did nothing and lived 5 years, so maybe it will be ok.

the photo is kind of weird for this post, but i have nothing appropriate other than pure blackness. charlie would LOVE to get his hands on the dollar that fell through the grate, so it reminds me of him.

it's amazing how things can change in the blink of an eye. a couple of week ago i was so excited to finish my life plan and get busy. now, it's collecting dust. i've also not been good about visiting everyone this week and that's lonely. scott's pretty strong and methodical about it all, so i'll try to do the same. enjoy your weekend, everyone. don't waste a minute!

xo, cindy

29 comments:

chelsea said...

I am sorry Cindy. Love and hugs to your family.

**We BLOG ARTISTS** said...

Oh, Cindy and Scott...my prayers are with you.
You're right Cindy, Life changes in a second...be grateful for your health when you have it.
Sending healing thoughts.
HUGS
Char.x

erin said...

i'm so sorry to hear this news, cindy. thinking of you guys.

Jamie said...

I'm so sorry Cindy.

You, Scott and especially Charlie are in my thoughts and prayers.

cindy said...

thanks so much you guys! i'm thinking i want to throw a 'charlie kicks cancer's ass' party for his friends, including all the sweet little old ladies who have been asking about him.

xo, c

My Farmhouse Kitchen said...

saw this on my reader list and it stopped me cold.

made my heart sink...

life can change in the blink of an eye... i know it all too well myself...
please know you are in my prayers...

sending healing blessings to you and your family

kary

Pascale said...

I'm so sorry to read this, Cindy.
I don't know what to say.
Stay strong. Charlie is in good hands with two loving and caring people like you and Scott around him...
xo, P.

Line said...

well Cindy you should celebrate life, It would be wonderful for Charlie, my dad died at 68 of a lung cancer, he had 6 months to live... He enjoyed his last 6 months, meeting with old friends and relatives!!

be strong for Charlie!

x x x

cindy said...

thank you karey and pascale! line, i'm so sorry about the loss of your dad and he was young. i don't know why lung cancer is so fatal, so quickly. i hope i don't find out, but we'll keep stiff upper lips when we're around charlie.

he really has no patience for anything that is going to make him feel worse, so i don't know what will happen.

xo, c

Bella Sinclair said...

Oh, Cindy...... Heartbroken. Sending you so much strength and hope and love.

xoxo

Debbie said...

Cindy,
I am so sorry about your bad news. I hope that Charlie's prognosis is good.

My Mother was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer after she became jaundice all of the sudden. She only lived for 2 months after her diagnosis. I still thank God that I had those two months to spend with her and let her know how much I loved her. I know that she was thankful also for the time she had even though it was short. She opted not to have any treatment as the prognosis was, that no matter what, her time was short.

Some people lose their loved ones in an instant and never have the chance to say or do that one last thing. I was blessed to have what little time I did with my Mom. I will keep you in my prayers.

Debbbie

Line said...

Hi Cindy... sorry maybe my comment has you worried, my dad had six months to leave, the cancer was already spread, and it was too late,for him! So keep faith and hope for Charlie!

a friend who cares x x x

cindy said...

i know, line. please don't worry at all. we know the good scenarios and the bad. i want to hear people's stories, regardless. that's what friends do. they share and don't edit their lives. xo, c

cindy said...

debbie - it can be so shocking. i'm sorry about your mom and you are so right about appreciating each day. having our mortality shoved in our faces is eye-opening and any extra time is a blessing. we now have an even more heightened sense of awareness of the inevitable loss regardless of the reason. i wish all the members of scott's family would get that point.

thank you, bella!

xo, c

My name is PJ. said...

I'm so sorry, Cindy! I feel a great affinity towards Charlie.

My mother-in-law (Scotty's wife) died from lung cancer, but she chain smoked for years and years.

I'm glad Charlies is small and I hope it's growth is very slow.

Do they do 'radial ablation' to lungs? You may want to ask. They do it to other parts of the body and it's a good way to slow things wayyyyyy down.

cindy said...

thank you, pj. i will write it down and we will definitely find out. i'm avoiding doing any type of online research about this. i've done it before for other things and it just ends up in more fear. you know why? because we're not DOCTORS! oy!

Dawn said...

oh dear. i'm always at a loss for words when news like this hits my eyes.

i wish i could give you and scott a big hug and grab that dollar for charlie :) if possible, enjoy your weekend, too.

cindy said...

thanks dawn ... i think your words are perfect!

Elizabeth said...

Oh Cindy, that is sad. A virtual hug to both of you, and I hope that at least Charlie will be comfortable, and not in pain. I hate hearing a diagnosis like that with someone who never smoked, it is just not fair!!

aimee said...

i don't think the photo is weird at all - i think it's perfectly paired with the post. in the gutter of bad news, there's the glimmer of a gem that the cancer hasn't spread. but i am so sorry to hear this, cindy. love, hugs, and please keep us posted.

Denise said...

Oh so sorry Cindy! And I totally agree with Aimee. Much love

Megan Walker said...

Oh Cindy dear... I'm so sorry. You know how we have come to adore sweet Charlie. Bless his heart. I too, really loved what Aimee said. You all have my thoughts and prayers, and certainly my love :)

xoxo

cindy said...

if it means anything at all, i absolutely adore you guys! i love aimee's perspective on the photo - every cloud has a silver lining. i'll be showing this post and comments to charlie as i always do when they're about him. he tends to read thwm over and over, again.

also, he didn't know his diagnosis until after you. scott waited a day to tell him because he was spending thursday with his nephews. there was no point in spoiling his day. really, nothing had changed other than we were more informed.

my word verification is a silence. that is weird!

Candi said...

I'm sorry to hear this, Cindy and Scott. You're all in my prayers, especially Charlie! Hugs

Joyce said...

Oh Cindy, I am sorry to hear about Charlie. How is his spirit? Give my friend Charlie a big hug from me. I will keep you all in my prayers. Sending you hugs too my friend. Hang in there. xo

Krissy said...

aw, cindy! big hugs to you and your family... take care.

yes, aimee has the perfect interpretation of the photo.

painted fish studio said...

cindy, have been thinking of you and scott and charlie all weekend. my heart goes out to all of you. xo, jen

Bonbon Oiseau said...

cindy i am so sorry...i am thinking of you and thoughts and prayers are with you all...love, deb

L'Atelier said...

OH dear Cindy! i am so sorry to hear this! i do hope that all well be well in the end!
my thoughts and prayers are wit you all
wish i could do more!
xo